There is nothing wrong with being clear about what you want. Jesus said; …“But let your statement be, ‘Yes, yes’ or ‘No, no’ [a firm yes or no]; anything more than that comes from the evil one.” (Matthew 5:37)
How more productive would we be if we applied this principle more in our lives? I believe this not only applies when dealing with other people – but also being straight forward with ourselves. For some reason it seems that we like to live in the gray area where we can avoid confrontation of any kind. Truth is, that’s not possible. You can’t please everybody nor should you try. In most cases you’ll end up not pleasing anyone – including yourself. Here are a few things I’ve learned:
Know what you really want before asking, otherwise you’ll be disappointed.
Know what you are seeking for, otherwise you’ll never find it.
Know whose door you’re knocking on, the one who answers may not have your best interest (that applies to what’s knocking on your door as well).
There are those who seek to keep you herded in the gray area where everything is “relative” – there is no black or white, or no real truth. That is the lie and the trap. That mindset will lead you down a destructive path. Brothers and sisters you are smarter and better than that.